5 May 2008
Successful Intentions Newsletter
Hi ,
Who do you think you are?
Just when you're feeling confident and in control of your life someone makes a snide remark or gives you "feedback" and you feel flattened. Why do some people seem to have the power to build you up and others can so easily prick your balloon?
Perhaps you're living life outside in instead of inside out! When you rely too much on how other people perceive you there's a risk you may turn into a kind of reflection of their approval. But finding your authentic self allows you to act from the inside out - no matter what they say!
Here are some guidelines to help you locate your authentic self:
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" This above all: to thine own self be true. And it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man". Hamlet, Act 1, scene 3, 78-82.
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- Know your values. Your beliefs and attitudes suggest what you value in life. What motivates you most is generally what you value and if you're not motivated by it (or by him or her!) then you don't value it.
- Allow others to hold different values to you. The extent to which you can tolerate differences of opinion and not feel the need to defend your own is a fundamental quality of the authentic self.
- Take time to reflect on the lessons you've learned from your life so far. When have you acted wisely and when have you acted foolishly? What made the difference? And what advice would you give yourself now?
- Notice the likely effect you have on those around you. There are always three aspects of any action you might take - the effect on key individuals, the effect on the "community" to which they (and you) belong, and the effect on you. Don't leave your own interests out of the picture!
- Life can never be certain. See the situation as it really is, not as you wish it to be. Pain is real. But it's possible to develop a way of handling it. That way is to be found in cultivating stillness - the art of being.
Don't miss the next Coaching for Wisdom two-day workshop at Melbourne Business School's Sydney Campus, Jones bay Wharf, Pyrmont on June 18 - 19, 2008. Download the full brochure here for more information and registration details. Or go to the website page here.
Keep your intentions clear,
Peter Webb
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